IMMEDIATE
RELEASE Tuesday,
11 February 2003
A
new study has found that combat veterans are 60% more likely than non-combat
men to get divorced, putting combat experience into the top ten list of high
risk factors for family breakdown.
Sven Wilson, assistant professor of political science at Utah University said,
"We found that combat experience is an important risk factor for divorce
or separation," adding, "Traumatic experiences like combat seem to
have a persistent impact on the ability of people to form and maintain successful
relationships."
This week is National Marriage Week and while Blair and Bush think about breaking
down Iraq's weapons of mass destruction, it is ironic that war would unleash
just such a weapon - hitting right at the heart of our own domestic life.
Former helicopter pilot in the Falklands war Harry Benson, who is now Project
Director of Bristol Community Family Trust - a project devoted to helping marriages
work well said, "Having fought in the Falklands war, I know just how
hard it is to talk about combat experiences - especially to those closest to
you. I didn't talk to anyone for at least 5 years and it took me until
last year, the 20th anniversary of the Falklands, to really feel like I had
come to terms with the experience properly," said Harry. "My
marriage of 16 years nearly broke apart some years ago and I feel sure my combat
experiences played their part in this. I have cried and broken down many
times in private but had rarely been able to discuss my experiences and memories
with my wife Kate - even though I could otherwise talk to her about anything."
Marriage education and recognition of the problem, which may be a mild form
of PTSD, can undoubtedly help. Just knowing that talking is needed, that it
is OK to talk and knowing how to talk to one's spouse can all be learnt through
simple marriage education courses. The US military is increasingly using such
courses that some studies found reduced divorce risk by as much as 80% over
5 years. Britain should follow suit if it wants to avoid further acceleration
of family breakdown.
Benson, through Bristol Community Family Trust, offers courses to any couple
getting married in Bristol. He is also looking for ordinary couples who have
been married for ten years or more to act as mentors. Training for mentor couples
would be appropriate for veterans and non-veterans alike.
Elsewhere in the country, married education courses of all sorts are increasingly
available through Community Family Trusts, Marriage Registrars and churches.
Other
factors in the top ten divorce indicator list are parental divorce, second marriage,
prior cohabitation, getting married young, having a defensive personality, poor
communication, difficulty handling differences, having different beliefs, and
low level of commitment.
Ends
Notes:
For
further information contact Harry Benson on 0117-924 1480 or email on: info@bcft.co.uk
Contact NMW on 07702 426500
www.2-in-2-1.co.uk